Archive for May, 2007

Immigration Bill Provisions Gain Wide Support in Poll – NY Times

That’s really interesting and good. It should help the long standing demand of those back  stage workers who had played a significant role in building America.

Santa Singh and Banta Singh should be happy 🙂 !!!!


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Hindu Marriage and Its Traditions – Part II

The five parts of a wedding – “KANYA VARANAM”

Now let us come to the topic proper. What are the various rituals connected with a marriage and their significance?

In ancient days, when a boy decided to enter ‘Grahasthasramam’, he started looking for a girl who was compatible with his own race, religious practices, age, financial status and aptitudes. When he decided in his choice, he contacted the parent or relatives of the girl, and requested them for the hand of his daughter or ward. This request is called “Kanya Varanam”.

So, you see that it has always been the practice that the boy requests for the hand of the girl that he wishes to marry and not the other way around, as it has become a custom now. The habit of parents of a girl sweating it out hunting for a suitable groom and paying a heavy penalty in the form of ‘Dowry’ for having a daughter came into existence only during the period of the invasions of the Moguls and other barbarians, when the parents were eager to get their daughters married in a hurry. The grooms’ parents got greedy and started demanding dowries! Also, the ratio between boys and girls, greed and ego played a part in the introduction of the ‘Dowry Ststem’. Like in economics it became a question of ‘Equi-marginal Utilities!!’.

Now, back to the boy and ‘Kanya Varanam’. The boy requests two elders to go to the girl’s parents and ask for the girl’s hand on his behalf. He addresses the elders by uttering a manthra, the meaning of which is as follows: “Please go to the prospective bride’s home with a full heart. Indra, who is going to accept my oblations during my Yagnas after I accept ‘Grahasthasramam’ has given His consent. Let your travel be a pleasant and successful one” Then he prays to the Devas with another Manthra. “Oh! Devas. Let the path that these two elders tread be without stones or thorns. Let ‘Aryana’ and ‘Bagan’ unite me and the girl of my choice. Please bless us that we shall be united throughout our lives” 

At every stage of the wedding, the couple pray for their mutual wellbeing. With the strength of Divine grace invoked through vedic manthras and the blessings of elders, the couple begin the life journey into ‘Grahasthasramam’ There are five main ritualistic parts to the conduct of a wedding. “Vaakdhanam cha pradhanam cha varanam panipeeta namah Sabthapatheethi panchango vivahaha parikirthithaha – Say the ‘smrithis’. The five are: (1) ‘Vaakdhaanam’ or the promise or consent to give. (2) ‘Kanya Dhaanam’ or offering the girl as a gift. (3) ‘Vara prekshaanam’ or purification. (4) ‘Pani grahanam’ or accepting the bride by taking hold of her hand and praying to the Gods. (5) ‘Saptha Pathi’ or the groom holding the bride’s hand and requesting her to take seven steps towards his house.

Now. Let us go into the details, one by one, of the various rituals that has to be performed during the wedding. Vaak-Dhaanam: Once the girl’s parents have consented to the wedding, the bride and groom will be brought to the wedding platform. The groom will sit facing east. The bride’s father will wash the groom’s feet, uttering manthras that describe him as Mahavishnu or Parameswara according to the sect they belong to. As the water is being poured, the groom will utter a manthra which says “Let the water which washes my feet destroy the evil spirits which are opposed to this union. Let me have Brahma Tejaz” The father treats the boy as Mahavishnu and says “Mahavishnu swaroopasya varasya idham aasanam” which means “I offer this seat to him who is Vishnu himself”. Then the groom looks at the bride for the first time. He addresses the bride with some manthras which are full of meaning. In short they mean, “Have a good heart and win the hearts of your husband, parents and relatives by your behaviour. Be devoted to God and show kindness to human beings and animals which save you”. He then invokes the blessings of God to remove the impurities in the bride by placing a ‘Dharbai’ at the bride’s forehead. After the manthra is chanted he throws the dharbai behind the girl.

Kanya Dhaanam: The bride then sits on the lap of her father. The groom will place a coil of Dharba on her head and on top of that place a miniature yoke. The hole on the right hand side of the yoke will be at the center of the girl’s head. Then the groom prays to Indra to remove all diseases from the body of the bride. Then a gold coin is placed in the hole and the manthra uttered. By this manthra the groom says “Let this gold bring you health’ wealth and prosperity, let the water that I now sprinkle on you cleanse your psyche and all impurities and make you fit to join your husband. Some people interpret the significance of this ritual to mean that the couple should tread the same path always together and united and with one mind like the two bulls joined by the yoke.

 Varaprokshanam: After the bride has her “Mangala Snanam” or auspicious bath. There are five manthras for this ceremony. I shall briefly give the meanings of these manthras: (1) Let this golden water which is pure and purifies all other objects, remove all the evil thoughts surrounding this girl. (2) Let this golden water from which the sun and fire appeared, this water which is pure and purifying, bring you auspiciousness and a united happy life. (3) Let Varuna, the king of all the auspicious waters, bestow upon you a contented life and bring unto you good company. (4) Let this water, blessed by the devas bring you happiness and peace of mind. (5) Let this auspicious water which embraces your body bring you happiness and unity. After the auspicious bath, the bride is given the bridal sari or what is called the “Koorai Pudavai”. After she returns wearing the sari, the groom ties a chord made of Dharbai (Kusa Grass) around the waist of the bride uttering a manthra which means:

“This girl has prayed for a good heart, healthy and intelligent children, long life for her husband and a healthy body for herself to be of service to others. She stands by in front of the fire (Agni) ready to follow me in my religious pursuits, Vrathas and Yagyas. For the sake of sanctifying this marriage with her, I am tying this sacred Dharbai around her waist”

Then the groom takes hold of the right hand of his bride and brings her to the holy fire. The bride and the groom sit on a new mat placed in front of the “Homa Kundam” or ‘Holy Pyre’. The groom sits on the North side and the bride on the South. After they are seated the groom chants the manthras which say: “The moon gave you strength, the Ghandharvas gave you beauty and the lord of fire ‘Agni’ gave you youthfulness so that you may give me your service. You are divine by nature”.

After this the groom ties the “Thali” (SacredThread) around the bride’s neck. It is interesting to note that there are no Vedic Manthras stipulated for the tying of the ‘Thali’. In fact no mention about the “Thali” has been made in any of our Puranas or Ithihasas!! Only “Metti” has been mentioned. It plays an important part in Ramayana where Lakshmana identifies a metti as Sitha’s. What you hear in almost every wedding here and Tamil Movies is: “Mangalyam Thanthunanena mama jeevana hethuna Kante badhnami subhake sanjeeva sarathas satham” The above is only a ‘Sloka’ or verse and not a Manthra. Its meaning is: “This is a sacred thread which helps in keeping me alive. I am placing this around your neck so that you can live happily for a hundred years”. From this you can assume that during the Vedic period there was no ‘Thali’. The couples were bound by the vows they took in front of the sacred fire and all the Gods, Devathas, relatives and friends present as witnesses.

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Unlucky Laxman waits to play his role – The Hindu

Quite an unfair treatment  to a class player like Laxman. This is India afterall where power center, regional bias plays a big role than honest efforts. Hopes he finds himself a place in the team

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Who is an Idol?

NDTV 24×7 conducted a talk show compromising of prominent(?!!!) people like Rakhi Sawant and Diya Mirza.Topic: Who does Women look upon as their idol?

When an educated middle class guy/girl announces Dr. Kalam(Have taken him as an example here) as his/her idol, I strongly feel they are missing some trivial details before declaration. Its always hard to convince myself when I think of somebody like Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam as my idol. Apart from being a Tamil, nothing’s common between ourselves. An idol is someone with whom we can relate with.Vishy, Dravid, NRN or Collector Radhakrishnan can fit in the role of IDOLS for the emerging middle class than Dr. APJ who is one in a century person.Comparing ourselves with a man of his stature some times hit our morale as its almost impossible to reach his milestones. That doesnt mean that Dr.Kalam cannot be a person we cant look upon but the incidents, the culture, the support we get when we succeed or fail may not always be similar to that of him. Again, am taking Dr.APJ as a crude example, doesnt mean him obviously.


The others that I had mentioned here gives us  a FEEL GOOD FACTOR (Sorry BJP, am sure you would like to forget this term). Hardwork and dedication from a background and culture very similar to the emerging middle class can fetch results without any extra ordinary or out of the box deeds. These people are more convincing as they don’t belong to the extremes.

As of now, Vishy is my IDOL !!!!!

 Who’s yours ?

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Countdown Starts – 24 days for the D-day :( !!!!!

Sivaji - The Boss

Anybody in Bangalore going to Chennai for the First Day of the release ????

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Hindu Marriage and Its Traditions – Part I

MARRIAGE & OTHER IMPORTANT FUNCTIONS IN A MAN’S LIFE A talk delivered at the Hindu Center, SingaporeByE.S.J.Chandran 

   Sanathana Dharma or ‘Hinduism’ – a crude name by which it is commonly called – attaches sanctity to the institution of marriage. The rituals and Vedic incantations that go with it are extremely significant, designed as they are, to ensure the happy, prosperous and harmonious living of the couple. If the various rituals are performed properly and the Mantras uttered correctly and sincerely, understanding their meanings and significance, they are bound to be effective. What is Marriage 

 Marriage, according to Sanathana Dharma, is a means to an end, a part of a person’s Dharma. It is not the or utters will explain this: coming together of two persons, a man and a woman; but the unification of two souls. The bride and groom are manifestations of Sakthi and Siva, Lakshmi and Vishnu. It is the culmination of two souls walking hand-in-hand towards the ultimate goal in life that is Moksha. Some of the Manthras during the wedding ceremony which the groom chants “You have become my friend and we shall be friends for ever. You are ‘Sama’ the music and I am ‘Righ’ the lyric. I am heaven and you are the earth. I am the mind and you shall be my voice. Please follow me.” 

You see the beautiful concept? Our marriages give prominence and importance to spiritual rather than physical togetherness of the couple. How is it a Dharma 

 Why do we call marriage a part of Dharma? Our Vedhas and Sruthis have devised four classes or stages of Dharma for men, based on their physical and intellectual capabilities and capacities. They are:            (1)  Brahmacharyam  (2)  Grahasthasramam  (3)  Vanaprastham, (4)   Sanyasam. Among the four Grahasthasramam has been singled out as the best by our ancient seers and sages (Rishis). The reason for this are two fold: 

(i)                It is the Grahasthan or married man who has the responsibility of feeding the Brahmachari and Sanyasins. Brahmacharis and Sanyasis are not allowed to cook on their own. They have to beg for their food.(ii)              Those belonging to the other three Ashrams are not conferred with the right to produce children. It is the Grahasthan or married man who is given the responsibility of producing intelligent, morally perfect and useful children and upholds the Dharma of the universe. 

When to get married? What is the right age for a man to get married and enter Grahasthasramam?  Before coming to that, let us see the various stages of men. Well, our Sastras say that anyone who has lived to a ripe old age of eighty has had “Poorna Ayusu” or a ‘Full Life.’ 

These eighty years are devided into ten segments of eight years each, through which hour passes.  During the first eight years, a child enjoys a carefree life having the affection and love of the parents. At eight the “UpavithaDharanam” or sacred thread ceremony is conducted. From the day he wears a “Upavitham” or commonly called “Poonool” he is called a “Brahmachari”. From eight to sixteen he undergoes a course of study under the tutelage of a Guru (An evolved teacher of the scriptures and Sastras). From sixteen to twenty four he goes for higher studies of the Vedhas, Puranas and the Sastras. 

Equipped with knowledge and a proper direction in life, he enters Grahasthasramam” at the age of twenty four. From twenty four to thirty two, together with his wife, he follows the ‘Kula Dharma’ and takes steps to have children to satisfy the ‘Pithrus’ (Fore fathers) and the Devas. From thirty two to forty he spends his time in acquiring material things for his family and to bring up his children. From forty to forty eight he concentrates, with his wife, on acquiring spiritual knowledge and the practice of rituals and meditation for the liberation of bondage and to attain ‘Mokhsha’. 

From forty eight to fifty six he prepares himself for the third stage which is ‘Vanaprastham’, when he would have his children who will be settled with their own families, and with the wife lead a secluded life. He would have completed his duties of ‘Grahasthasramam’. From fifty six to sixty four he, with his wife, lives a simple hermetic life of ‘Vanaprastham’.  

Between sixty four and seventy two, he leaves the last bondage in life that is his wife, and lives a life like a Sanyasi. If he gets initiation and becomes a full-fledged Sanyasi, he sheds all his possessions, travels from place to place eating whatever is offered as ‘Biksha’ or alms. During this period he is not allowed to stay for more than one night at any village or town. His only duty is to be immersed in God-consciousness and to enlighten people on spiritual matters. From seventy two to eighty he retires to a forest or a cave in a mountain peak and spends the rest of his life time in meditation and ‘Tapas’. He is immersed in super-consciousness and becomes one with ‘Athman’ or ‘Brahman’ waiting for his mortal body to drop off. 

So, sixteen to twenty four, according to the scriptures is the right age for a girl or man to get married. Let us look at it scientifically. Biologists say that a man attains mental and physical maturity between the ages of twenty one and twenty four and a girl between thirteen and sixteen. May be, that is why a person is called a ‘Major’ when he attains the age of twenty one. This is also one of the reasons why our forefathers stipulated as a rule a minimum four year difference between a boy and a girl who wanted to get married.

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ARR at his best !!!!


Never seen ARR as smart as in this picture !!!

Thalaivar is gonna be the judge for a talent hunt show in Sun TV.

Sivaji Rocks Thalaiva !!!! Can’t stop from listening ATHIRADEE !!!

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